One of the easiest ways to get out of a rut is to have a new adventure. Get out. Go someplace new. Do something new. Meet some new people. It’s all about new. Find something new to do.
For the hubby and I, the last year has been nothing but new adventure. While it’s been exciting and fun to visit new places and meet new people, it’s also been stressful. Constant change is hard to adapt to because humans don’t accept change very well. We struggle and fight against it, mostly because of the fear of the unknown.
Often times, it’s easier to stay in our rut because it’s safe. We know what to expect, even when it’s harmful, so we stay until something forces us out. But getting out of the rut, creates growth and growth is good.
We need growth to overcome obstacles and find our dreams. We need growth to become better versions of ourself. I need growth to gain my freedom lifestyle.
The adventure day’s challenge.
Hubby and I spent the day with my sister and her two weenie dogs. We rode the Southport-Carolina Beach ferry and ate seafood in Southport before finally crash landing at my sister’s house for dinner and a movie.
One might wonder how all this is a challenge but most people don’t know my sister. She talks about herself all the time, rarely listens and isn’t interested in anything going on in our life. The self-centeredness is hard to take. She also has a very negative outlook on everything. And she interrupts me and talks over me like I was never speaking all the time. Pair it with her fussing at her puppies all day long and not being able to do anything you’d really like to do and the day was a pretty stressful adventure.
It’s hard. Sometimes I would rather not hang out with her because the negativity, not listening and no interest in our life is hard to take. But she is my sister. And yes, I’ve tried talking to her. It always gets turned back to it being my fault and my issues. I’m not saying that I’m perfect because I’m far from it. But it’s hard being around someone like that.
Deep breaths. Lots of deep breaths. And my wonderful hubby checking in with me often to make sure I’m not taking it in and hurting myself. After all, it’s her issues not mine but I have a history of blaming myself even when it’s nothing I did.
So it’s all about growth and the adventure of learning to deal with difficult people and coming out on the other side a stronger person because of it. I just continue my work of as a loving, supportive sister and trying to understand where she’s coming from. After all, acceptance for who we are is important.
I guess my adventure got a little personal, but sometimes we have to dig deep to face our fears. This is my digging deep and embracing the change that will come from it. As for the stress, it’s time for a good glass of wine, a hug from hubby, the beach and a sunset. That always hits the spot when I’m feeling a little down.
I hope your adventure of the day was a lot less stressful. Please feel free to share 🙂
This blog post is in response to Natalie’s 10 Day Freedom Plan Blog Challenge Day 8